Ericka Alston Buck
Special to the AFRO
Hey sis, Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and if you’re a single Black woman like me, you might be feeling some type of way about it. Maybe you just went through a breakup, or perhaps you’ve been out of the dating game for a minute. Either way, I want you to know that love is still out there for you, and this Valentine’s Day can be amazing, whether you’re flying solo or with a special someone.
First things first, let’s talk about self-love. Before you can invite someone else into your life, you gotta love yourself fiercely. Take this time to pamper yourself, indulge in your favorite hobbies, and surround yourself with people who uplift you. Remember, you’re a queen, and you deserve nothing but the best.
Now, let’s talk about dating. If you’re ready to dip your toes back into the dating pool, go for it! But remember, it’s all about quality over quantity. Don’t settle for anything less than what you deserve, and don’t be afraid to set boundaries. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and understanding, so don’t be afraid to speak up for yourself.
Here are five tips for having a great Valentine’s Day, even if you missed out on having someone to wear matching pajamas with this past Christmas:
1. Treat Yourself: Plan a self-care day filled with all your favorite things. Get a massage, take a long bubble bath, or indulge in some decadent chocolate. Remember, you’re your own best Valentine!
2. Galentine’s Day celebration: I’m having a few women at my house, and our plan is to celebrate with each other! Gather your girlfriends for a fun night in. Have a movie marathon, exchange heartfelt gifts, and celebrate the love you have for each other. Who needs a man when you have amazing friends?
3. Volunteer: Spread love and kindness by volunteering in your community. Whether you’re serving meals at a soup kitchen or spending time cleaning your closet to donate those things you’ll never wear again— a shelter with a dress for success program would be grateful for anything you donate! After all, giving back is a surefire way to make your heart feel full.
4. Virtual date night: Set up a virtual date with a friend or family member who’s also flying solo this Valentine’s Day. Cook dinner together over video chat, watch a movie simultaneously, and enjoy each other’s company from the comfort of your own homes.
5. Treat yourself to a fancy dinner: Dress up in your favorite outfit, make a reservation at that fancy restaurant you’ve been dying to try, and enjoy a delicious meal all by yourself. Who says you need a date to have a fabulous dinner?
And for all the married couples out there looking to have their best Valentine’s Day ever, here’s a tip: Keep the romance alive by surprising your partner with thoughtful gestures and expressions of love. Whether it’s a handwritten love letter, a surprise weekend getaway, or a heartfelt conversation over candlelit dinner, make sure to show your partner just how much they mean to you.
So, whether you’re single, dating, or happily married, remember that Valentine’s Day is all about celebrating love in all its forms. So go ahead, embrace the love within yourself and spread it to those around you. Happy Valentine’s Day, sis! You got this.
